300 Pounds and 15 Belly Rolls of “Redefined Beauty”

Earlier this week a woman named Denise Jolly posed for this picture:

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(Read the article: “Why I Posed Naked in Brooklyn“)

Miss Jolly thinks she is beautiful. That is why she took the picture.

She thinks she is beautiful for the simple reason that feminists and liberals have effectively put an end to fat shaming.

Fat shaming is wrong. It is ineffective, they say. Better instead to “have a conversation.”

Let’s talk about body image. Let’s talk about what it means to be beautiful. We can talk about this and that and this some more, and then that some more, and then later we can go home and congratulate ourselves on all the progress we made today.

It’s all very trite, but more importantly, it doesn’t work.

A conversation won’t steer a woman like Denise Jolly in the direction of a treadmill, or to the fruits and vegetables aisle at a supermarket, where she should be making a beeline toward. Harsh, sure, but there’s a reason it’s almost impossible to separate the words “truth” and “hurts.”

Miss Jolly doesn’t need soft language, positive reinforcement, coddling, or a redefinition of the word “beauty.” She doesn’t need feminism, which lies to her and tells her it’s okay—no, that it’s fucking fantastic—that she can’t see her own toes without peering into a mirror.

What this woman needs to hear, plainly and simply, is the truth. That plus a good kick in the ass such that each 40-pound cheek can actually feel the contact.

I’m thinking someone like Messi or Ronaldo to get the job done.

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3 thoughts on “300 Pounds and 15 Belly Rolls of “Redefined Beauty”

  1. “A conversation won’t steer a woman like Denise Jolly in the direction of a treadmill, or to the fruits and vegetables aisle at a supermarket, where she should be making a beeline toward. Harsh, sure, but there’s a reason it’s almost impossible to separate the words “truth” and “hurts.” ”
    How do you know that she doesn’t already work out? How do you know that she doesn’t eat fruit and vegetables? The idea of fat-shaming is directly related to your ‘get on the treadmill fatty’ idea. You’re fat-shaming without realising it, under the guise of ‘helping people’.
    The fact that she is confident in her own body is to be congratulated, no matter what you think is beautiful. The idea behind this is that no matter how you look, you should be comfortable in your own skin. If this is an alternative to constantly hating yourself, wouldn’t you go for the confidence?

  2. Thank you for reading and commenting.

    Maybe Denise does eat fruits and veggies. Maybe she works out ten times a week. I don’t know the woman personally, so I can’t say for certain. But this I can say: whatever it is that she’s doing (if anything at all), clearly it’s not enough. Not even close to being close to being enough.

    “You’re fat-shaming without realising it, under the guise of ‘helping people’.”

    Yes, I am fat shaming. It is my intention. But I’m not doing it to help Denise or anyone else that looks like she does. My aim is to rid society of this perverted notion that we can just redefine a word that has a very concrete definition and take no responsibility for our actions. Saying that Denise is beautiful is like calling a basketball an air conditioner. Though you may think and live your life like every basketball is, in fact, an air conditioner, such delusion will never make it true.

    Only difference is that with feminism, you guys have become so powerful in the world that you’ve actually started convincing people that basketballs are really air conditioners–that fat is really beautiful. Your self-esteem movement creates instant gratification at the expense of long-term gains. Denise may feel great now, but only so long as her next heart attack holds out. Same with these kids that you’re every day influencing more and more. (I was one of them too). Telling them that all they have to do is think they’re successful, and without having to actually put in the work they can turn that thought into a reality. Sounds good on paper, but you’re setting these kids up to inevitably crash and burn.

    “The fact that she is confident in her own body is to be congratulated, no matter what you think is beautiful. The idea behind this is that no matter how you look, you should be comfortable in your own skin. If this is an alternative to constantly hating yourself, wouldn’t you go for the confidence?”

    Hers is a delusional, overcompensating confidence, which isn’t real confidence at all. She should not be proud of her body. The alternative to constantly hating yourself isn’t to just flip the switch in your mind and go to all-out self-love; there’s a third option, and it’s the only one that will actually make her better: lose weight.

    1. I do see what you’re saying, but you’re not separating healthy from beautiful. You’re acting as if they’re the same thing, and that without being healthy, you are trash.
      If you take the anecdote of striving for a raise at your job; you work your arse off for it, and you finally get it. The mindset is then what’s next?
      If you have no confidence, you don’t automatically gain it by becoming thin, or healthy as you would prefer. You gain that by finding an inner peace. That inner peace is completely different to complacency.
      You can be confident within your own body and still strive for further change, just as you would with your mind. You know you’re intelligent, but you continue to learn and grow to keep that up.
      Just because she feels that she is beautiful (which is a subjective thing, and you can’t say she isn’t), does not mean she doesn’t want to be healthy, and isn’t trying to be healthy. She may have, in the past, been heavier. She may be working towards health.
      Either way, the fact that she is confident in herself is completely separate from her health.

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